What Not to Do to Thrive at Work and Home
By Dorothy Watson
In a culture and environment that is so focused on productivity and image, you might often feel like you're falling short of the lofty standards. This is a friendly reminder that you are enough. But if your daily life feels plagued by negativity, stopping the following behaviours may set you on the right course.
Spending Too Much Time on Social Media
You've heard it before; social media is a highlight reel. Except, why does it seem like others have better highlight reels than you do? Or perhaps your feed is full of divisive hatred and fills you with dread. When using social media isn't, ultimately, enjoyable for you, and all the mindless scrolling feels like a waste of time, know that you're not alone. Put your fear of missing out aside and go on social media fast. If that's too much of a stretch, cut down your usage time on your apps of choice. Your mental health will thank you.
Self-Sabotaging
Don't let society's current obsession with having a perfect 'brand' stop you from trying new things. If you keep waiting for the right time to pursue a goal because you're afraid of failing and looking silly, you may defer your dreams indefinitely.
You need to reframe the concept of failure. For many people, failure develops resilience and is a necessary stepping stone to achievement and success. As long as you're willing to quit the excuses, address your impostor syndrome, and have discipline, the world is your oyster just waiting for you to open it up.
Hiding Your Truth
Take a good look at the people around you. Are they preventing you from living your truth? Your social ties are so important for your mental well-being. If you don't surround yourself with supportive and empathetic individuals, your anxiety levels can ramp up and affect your physical health.
Remember, you may not be able to choose your family, but you can choose how much time you spend in their toxic company. So, go on and choose an authentic life. That could mean moving out, speaking out, or coming out. It may be uncomfortable initially, but eventually, the tension you fold up into your body will melt away.
Putting Everyone Else’s Needs Before Your Own
Burnout can happen whether you love your job or not. Learn to recognize when you're at the end of your proverbial rope. You're allowed to say no in your personal and professional life, and you don't always have to be available to clients and loved ones.
Set boundaries without guilt and hire help when you need a break or just need time to sleep and eat adequately. There are plenty of virtual assistants in the gig economy. Have a look at their rates and testimonials on freelance sites to find the right fit for you.
Not Filling Your Cup Before You Try to Help Others
Just like they tell you on every single commercial flight, you've got to be able to breathe before you can assist someone else. Practice self-care and self-compassion, and you'll feel more fulfilled at work and at home.
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